In Indian relationships, “adjustment” is treated like a virtue. A marker of maturity. A sign that you’re reasonable. Proof that you love someone enough to make things work. And somehow, the people most praised for “adjusting” are almost always women. We grow up hearing it early. Adjust a little, beta. Don’t make a big deal out of it. This is how relationships work. You can’t expect everything your way. At first, it sounds harmless. Practical, even. But over time, adjustment s

In the many epic tales of romance, from Shakespeare’s time to today’s Netflix rom-coms, one pattern persists: the emotionally unstable man and the woman who takes on the Herculean task of “fixing” him. But why, in the grand saga of love, is it often women who are tasked with the emotional cleanup? Let’s dive into this conundrum and see how societal expectations, gender roles, and a little bit of patriarchy keep women in the role of the “emotional janitor”. The Weight of Emoti

No one really talks about it, but most people feel it. The pressure to be confident. To be experienced. To know what you’re doing without having to ask. Somehow, we’re all supposed to show up already fluent — as if sex is something you either get or don’t. And if you hesitate, if you need time, if you’re unsure… it can start to feel like you’re behind. This pressure doesn’t always come from a partner. Often, it comes from comparison. From movies that skip the awkward parts. F

There’s a strange loneliness that can exist even when you’re physically close to someone. You can be lying next to them. You can be touching, kissing, doing all the things that are supposed to mean something. And still feel… slightly separate. Like something important didn’t quite land. We don’t talk about that enough. Because for a long time, intimacy has been explained to us almost entirely through sex. If you’re having it, things must be good. If you’re not, something must

At some point in dating, almost everyone hears this line. “If they wanted to, they would.” It usually shows up when you’re stuck. When you’re rereading messages.When you’re explaining someone’s behaviour to your friends for the third time, hoping they’ll see something you missed. And honestly? Sometimes this line is exactly what you need. Because sometimes, the signs really are that clear. Someone doesn’t call.They don’t follow through.They keep saying they’re busy but someho

There’s a particular kind of tired that comes from dating right now.Not heartbreak tired. Not drama tired. Just… emotionally done. You open an app. You reply to messages. You go on a date that’s pleasant enough. And somehow, you still come back home feeling heavier than when you left. No big red flag. No obvious wrong turn. Just a quiet sense of ugh, this again . A lot of people assume this exhaustion means they’re doing something wrong. That they’re asking for too much, expe